Who The F*** Are You?

Is a question you should all be able to answer

And if you're still thinking about it now, you have work to do...

Just like I started doing five years ago after leaving a job that was not for me

It was scary at the time, but now I understand how important my decision really was

For once in my life, I actually took a decision for myself, and not for all my friends and family

In fact, many of the people around me at the time thought I was making a big mistake

But I knew deep inside that I could not keep going in the same direction

You see, it wasn't only my work that I disliked at that time

I didn't like the person I was becoming either

And that's not living at all...

A Step Back

My childhood was tough

And I know many of you can relate

But you all have the ability to break the cycle...

If you are willing to put in the work and go deep within

Because I'm finding that this is where most of the answers are

Deep inside yourself, where no one else can really see, except for you

Which means you need to be honest with yourself if you want to make a change

For me, it was accepting that fact that I was much more than a good insurance salesman

Sales was something that I was taught and trained to do well throughout my 20's

But it wasn't a role that I was in love with, and I hated what we were selling

That said, the money was good and my friends were impressed

And it's why being honest with yourself is so important

Yeah, I liked the money and all the perks too

But it wasn't worth all the sacrifice

To be someone else...

Your Future Self

Sometimes we get lost

Enjoying all the pleasures of today

While not taking the time to align with our goals...

Don't get me wrong, I'm a huge fan of being present as possible

But that doesn't mean you shouldn't take the time to make sure you're on track

Yeah, the track might even been a bit unclear, but having some direction always helps

It's this direction that allows us to align within and reach our personal goals

That said, you need to have an idea of who you really want to be

And that's where your future self comes into the picture

But for me, the process was a bit backwards

Because the future self I was creating

I clearly didn't want to be...

Acceptance

You can be honest with yourself

But it doesn't mean you have to accept it

That said, once you accept it, you can actually change it...

This was a tough lesson for me to learn, but it's one you must learn too

Because to actually change anything in your life, you are going to have to take action

And you won't take any action until you accept that there is a problem that needs to be fixed

It's exactly what I did 5 years ago though, and it allowed me to make a big change

First, I had to be honest with myself and the situation I was in at the time

Then I had to accept it as my reality, which made it even worse

Leaving you with only two options at the end of day

1) Keep living the life I built for others

or

2) Make a radical change

And build my own...

The Lesson

Life will never get easy

And hard times will come and go

But you can make the hard times much easier...

By taking the time to be honest with yourself and accept it

This simple process outlined above will drive you in a new direction

A direction that is aligned with YOU and not necessarily the people around you

This was the big mistake that I was making over an over again for most of my adult life

I never took the time to step back and evaluate my situation and my true needs

Instead, I listened to what other people said and started to accept it

And I had no idea if they were being honest with me at all

Let alone with themselves...see the problem here?

I do, it's clear, I had no idea who the f*** I was

And it's why I started putting in the work

Just like you all need to do as well

So that you know damn well

Who the f*** you are...

With Love,

Steven Arthur George