It's All In Your Head
The thoughts, the dreams, the desires
But as many of you know, only one thing provides answers...

I'm an introvert at heart and have no concerns about spending time alone
But there's a downside to this that I don't speak about a lot and needs attention
Because when you're alone, it's easy to get lost in your own thoughts and overthink stuff
At times I even find myself lost in a goal of mine, analyzing all the different ways to achieve it
It takes up a ton of my energy and often leaves me more uncertain than I was before
In the end, you can't really have a conversation with yourself that helps much
There's always an inherent bias and no devil's advocate to help out
And the bias can jump to either side of the coin at any time
Making it difficult to draw any solid conclusions
Or make any sound decisions for yourself
It's a loser's game in the end...
The Wrong Way
I see it everywhere
And I'm to blame for it myself at times
But we're not always using entertainment effectively
It's often a time to forget reality and simplify things in our head
This became shockingly real for me when I moved to Portugal years ago
I used to be a big sports fan and I loved watching college football on the weekends
But once I got removed from all the marketing and hype around the sport
I realized I no longer had any desire to watch the games regularly
Why spend that time routing for a team behind a screen
There's no connection, its only entertainment
Why not use that time more effectively
Like investing in my development
Instead of ignoring it...
The Truth
This happens every time
But as I write these, I get to take a step back
And it always makes me realize how much work I have left
Those thoughts I mentioned in the first section, end up coming out
Fortunately, it allows me to put them onto paper and look at them as a reader
Sometimes I have great solutions to share and can provide value for you
Other times I'm lost for words and identify opportunities for growth
This is why regular writing is an actionable activity that helps
Instead of getting caught up in your own head at times
You can put your thoughts on paper for the reader
And learn where you need to take more action
Because once it's out there, it's out there
And it's hard to ponder it any more
You'll know where to focus...
The Right Way
Well, I'm still learning
So don't take my word for this one
But every time I get twisted up in my own head
I need to come out of my head to move the needle forward
One way this can be done is through writing as I mentioned last section
But there's something better, try putting it into physical practice and observing
This is what I find to work best in most situations, even with a bad outcome
Because it allows you to be aware of the outcomes of certain actions
Once you are more aware, you give yourself a chance to accept
And once you accept, you can take the next action forward
While extracting value and knowledge along the way
Without assuming outcomes in your own head
Which is much worse than a bad outcome
You'll just be stuck in limbo instead
No bad, no good, no nothing...
The Lesson
Only one thing can provide answers
And it's not the thoughts you create in your head
Think about that for a second, it's you who creates the thoughts
Regardless of where they actually came from, your brain decides to bring them up
Yeah, there could have been an external influence, but in the end, they're your thoughts
But it doesn't mean the thoughts are true or false, and that's the challenge friends
It's what can get you stuck there until you realize that it's all in your head
And you'll continue to get stuck there until you can get out of it
In the end, spending time alone can be very beneficial
But only if your energy is focused on growth
And that means actioning that sh*t
That's where the answers lie
Not inside your head...
With Love,
Steven Arthur George